We can pin them to you' or 'If you like the look you can order it and then we can try it on
I mean, who needs to actually try the most special dress you will ever wear on, when you can imagine how it feels pinned on to you instead. I guess it's a lot like being a five year old bride all over again. Pre and post my wedding I received messages and horror stories from other plus size women who had terrible experiences when wedding dress shopping. Women who had been fat shamed, laughed at, and even made to cry by shop owners. It upset me so much that being fat meant being excluded from something that is meant to be all about love and happiness.
It is no wonder that I fell pray to feeling like absolute garbage several times on the lead up to my wedding, I even re-joined a diet club that had previously caused havoc on my dangerous disordered eating behaviors in order to feel better.
I quickly realised, a few weeks in that I was trying to lose weight for all the wrong reasons. I was doing it because everything I saw made me feel unworthy, unattractive and honestly not good enough to be a bride and they I reminded myself this:
All women, no matter what their size deserve love.I count my blessings everyday that I have found someone who loves me for who I am, even if who I am is a person who sits in three day old pj's with food down my top. I'm grateful that I feel loved and appreciated for the things I do to make our life together fulfilling every day. I love that Dan makes me giggle and pinches my bum on the walk up the stairs to our flat everyday. Or when he kisses me on the forehead in the morning on a tube packed full of people even when it is sweaty and gross (that is real love right there)
The day I tried on my dress I was a size 24 and the day I got married I was a size 24.I realised long before I walked into the registry office and down the aisle to Dan that I couldn't care less what people thought of me, or my size because I had something far more special, something that would outlive my wedding dress. Real, true and honest love with someone who loves me for more than the size clothes that I wear.
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